I thought I’d run by you lovelies something that has been bothering me. I am open minded and understand that I have a “Monkey Mind” that takes off on its own direction. Therefore, when something is bothering me, I need to be defused quickly before my mind is in the outer stratosphere. I thought I could bounce an issue off of you, and you let me know if I’m off base, and perhaps how to gracefully address this issue.
This past Saturday (yes, the one that included my tangle with some bikes, which I’m still finding new bruises from) my hubby and I had an altercation with some relatives. Nothing huge, just a parenting issue that we brought to their attention. They address the child who in turn, tearfully apologized and we forgave and moved on, or so we thought. Then the mother comes to us and blames us that we were unclear on the boundaries of what is correct behavior –vs- incorrect behavior with this child. Meaning that we were inconsistent with this child. I then stated that this issue is not ours, but the parents place to set these boundaries. Her response was “how dare we instruct her on how to raise her son”…blah, blah, blah...I then decided to bite my tongue, realizing that this was going to go nowhere quickly, and was going to turn ugly. We stated that this is water under the bridge, we were resolved and we left.
Apparently they are still holding a grudge. My husband ran into them the following day and was met with snide, personal comments and the like. And truthfully I’m perplexed. I don’t know what to make of it, nor do I know how to take the next step.
I am always looking for input on how to better myself, my relationships, my parenting. You can tell me ANYTHING…I will thank you for it, mull it over a bit, and glean from it what I deem is true to me. How do I deal with someone who feels that they must be right and responds with spite and ugliness? These are our closest relatives and spend several days a month with them. Honestly, I feel like I’m back in High school! I don’t do well with drama!
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